GoodManDave opinions shared on Flirting topic. Here are your options as I see them. Now, hopefully this will make you a more interesting person. Maybe someday down the line, but honestly, I wouldn't wait. Along with that, you try to meet other women.
Be friendly, but not overly nice. Be willing to stand up for what you believe in, joke around, all that. This way, even if nothing happens romantically, you will feel like you have some options. If not, you'll at least hopefully get a "law of association" deal where if other girls see you hanging out with your female friends having fun, then THEY might want to hang out with you too.
Possibility 2 This is more remote, but she might change her mind. Especially if she sees you as not being quite so needy. Don't be desperate for her, don't be obsessed with trying to please her. She gave you the no, so ok, you're still cool enough to be friendly to her. Again, though, like I said earlier, do not wait around her, do not attempt to do too many nice things for her in order to convince her that you're a good man.
And don't TRY to make her jealous by flirting with other women too soon. It may make you look like a "player" and that won't look attractive.
Don't "publicly" move on too soon meaning that a week later you're gaga over someone else and letting everyone know it. Be subtle Possibility 3. You wait a few months, and go for it again. She gave you the no, plus what sounds like a "nice fib" the ball is now kind of in her court. Trust me, I'm sure if some musclebound sensitive guy who played rock music were to ask her out tomorrow, that little "I'm not ready to date" would go zipping out the nearest window.
Don't act bitter toward her after all, it was a "gentle" kind of no , but forget about her, at least for the time being. Keep getting to know her with a genuine interest, but forget the date part. Best advice, as hard as it may be to hear, is to try and move on.
Oh, and dinners. Go with meeting for coffee. It's like you're going for a "pre-date. I've been just as unsuccessful with the coffee pre dates as the dinner and movie stuff, so take my advice with a grain of salt. Good luck. Is this still revelant?
What I would've said. Good answer. Well you got rejected welcome to world of dating, she said she doesn't want to get into the dating scene yeah that's just a nice way of her saying she's not that into you, but don't worry it may seem like a bad thing, but you can actually learn from your mistakes. A rejection can be a blessing in disguise if it helps you find happiness in other people's company. To get out of your rejection funk, spend quality time with friends and go to social events you normally wouldn't.
Keep yourself busy by pursuing personal interests. Some major goals you can occupy yourself with include: Training to participate in a 5K or other athletic event.
Creating a work of art like a short story, a painting, or even a short film or skit. Learning an entirely new skill like cooking or woodworking.
Ask your crush again if you think her feelings have changed. Even if a girl rejects you once, you may still be able to date her in the future. After the initial rejection, give your crush as much personal space as she needs and try to be a good friend. If you and her grow closer, or if she starts flirting with you, consider asking her out again.
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I think any guy who goes out with a girl who plays these kinds of games is in for a rough time. No one is worth that kind of crazy. Guys play games too. It's called being passive aggressive. I wish everyone would just say what they mean. It's not being passive-aggressive, it's just bad communication. Passive-aggressive usually means that you're being negative in a downplayed way.
Like leaving a colouring page onto someone's windshield when they've done a bad parking job, to help them "keep within the lines". It gets the reproach across. Saying no when you mean yes is just That's one example of being passive aggressive but not the most common in relationships. It's more like they constantly "forget" to do something you asked them because they want to get back at you, or expect you to know why they are mad without them explaining to you, or using sarcasm to make a point instead of just saying the direct truth.
It's basically the inability or unwillingness to communicate directly. But that was not a relationship. It was two individuals, one said the exact opposite of what they wanted, which is not, by definition, passive-aggressive. I'm not saying passive-aggressive doesn't happen in relationships, I'm saying that what she did was not, actually, passive-aggressive. Lol, I just want to add that I had this experience as a woman with my ex, so yeah, guys do this too, maybe less often since they're taught to be more direct than women, but it exists.
I hate that passive aggressive bullshit. Being passive aggressive simply means you're downplaying your emotions. A woman is willing to fight for hours, while the children are being neglected and the house is a mess because women are emotionally-driven.
A man will evaluate the situation and decide that there is no point wasting that kind of time, only to discover that nothing will change by the time the argument is over since men are more logically-driven. Haha maybe. But why not just come out and say "No, I don't want to do that. When Men do say what we mean, you Women don't believe, or being needy, and pull away from us? Relationship Sabotage! Yep guys play so many damn games or whe they are evasive about what they want and lead you in for a year in a half or say little saddle hunts that clearly mean something then when you bring it up they change the subject or walk away from you.
Passive Aggressiveness is the bane of my existence.
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